Anonymous asked: If I don't think emotionally that I want to have sex does that make me asexual or would I also have to have no desire to have sex with other people physically/hormonally? Is this the wrong place to ask this?
Insofar as this blog being the right place for this sort of question: technically, we’re here for all things kink-practice or kink-theory related –mostly I’m just concerned that we wouldn’t be the best people to ask about asexuality or general orientation-type of questions, which are important questions and should thus be answered by those better qualified and informed.
A good place to start might be asexuality.org, which is headed up by the Asexual Visibility and Education Network and has some good resources and forums. Aaaaand asexualnews.com has a nice list of links right over here, which looks like it has a little more on the different orientations under the Ace umbrella. :)
In the spirit of stretching this back around to the kink-related, I do want to add that the kinky lifestyle and community is often a great place for asexuals or those looking for intimate but nonsexual relationships. Many practitioners play completely nonsexually, plus defining your needs and boundaries is an intrinsic part of proper play. We’ll probably do a little spread on nonsexual play, so keep a look out for that soon!
Pip